There are many different ways to handle conflict situations like the one we were placed in last Monday. Listed below are 5 ways people handle conflict:
Compete to winAssertiveness to get one’s own way.
AvoidanceWithdrawal; used when there’s “no chance of winning.”
CompromiseUsed with decision making under pressure; all members are equal.
AccommodationSeeing issue as more important to others than self.
CollaboratingRequires bargaining and negotiation among group.
Multiple group insights required.
Thinking back truthfully, I feel that the way I handled it was Avoidance. It was frustrating when I wanted to let my opinion be known because there were so many other opinions being shouted out by everyone at the same time that I felt like I would be wasting my breath. I felt my own voice would just add more noise and not do anything to further our progress.
When our classmate tried to leave and our professor urged him to stay, he said he wanted to leave because he felt this whole thing was pointless and we weren getting anywhere. In that moment he voiced the exact frustration I was feeling up to that point: there were so many people in the class who were being totally unreasonable with their demands and others who were shouting down classmates who 'dared' to disagree and the whole thing seemed like it was going nowhere. When the professor told him he should stay, a classmate and I suddenly had an "A-ha!" moment and figured out that this was a decision-making exercise and the whole situation was set up to test how we go about handling the conflict.
Thankfully we were led very ably by the two students who got up in front of the class to lead the discussions and we got the job done. There were many students shouting that someone else should go up to the whiteboard to take over and urging each other to go up to the front but luckily the guys who were up there were able to keep the group on the right track and prevent chaos from taking over.
In the future, I would choose to use collaboration to come up with the answer. I would maybe break the room up into smaller groups to come up with suggested solutions and then put them up on the board and eliminate the ones that won't work while working to improve the ones we think will work. I would also choose leaders similar to the ones we had who are strong and fair and work not by telling people what to do but by reminding them of the task and keeping them organized and on the right track.